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There are two things that we all do that lead directly to all of us becoming unhappy. The good news is that when you are aware of them, its really simple to eliminate them.

COMPARISONS

Comparisons is a sure path to unhappiness. in this world of multiple social media platforms, its really easy to see whats going on in the world of the people you know (and people you don’t know). Its easy to see what they are achieving, doing, acquiring and see the success they are having. We then compare our progress with theirs. When you compare your results, body, looks, career, finances, health or relationships with others you will always find someone else who is better off and then you become unhappy! The key here is to compare your progress, results and achievements with your own results, have you improved since last month or last week? When you focus on your own progress you are more likely to continue to move forward. That’s the real challenge, to make progress so that your own circumstances look better going forward than when you look backward.

EXPECTATIONS

The other path to unhappiness is making your expectations too big. I am a massive fan of setting goals but goals should stretch you, not overwhelm you! They should challenge you but be achievable, otherwise you will just stress yourself out. Be careful about the expectations others place on you (and the expectations you place on others) if they seem to big, too overwhelming, break them down to bite size, achievable chunks and or time frames. When we are challenged to do something that stretches us but is within our possibility mindset we are motivated to get stuck into it. when the expectation is too big we procrastinate, fail to execute and then become unhappy!